Celebrate Recovery

A Christ-Centered Recovery Program

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Codependent Women in a Relationship With a Sexually Addicted Man

The Problem

Many of us blame ourselves for the addict’s behavior: We tell ourselves, “If only I were more attractive, thinner, taller, shorter, etc.—if only I were more sexual.”

We give in to others’ behaviors, only to lose ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we have even participated in their sexual fantasies, or joined in by buying pornography or renting videos, leaving us feeling used and abused. Some of us ignored or did not recognize the signs that the addict was living a secret life.

Many of us blame the addict and their behavior for every problem in our relationship. We believe that if they would only change then everything would be fine. In essence, co-dependents are addicted to their spouse’s behaviors. They either give in to the addict, try to control them or make them stop.

We have sometimes pretended to family, friends, and co-workers that everything is “wonderful.” We have been unforgiving and sometimes punishing toward the addict.

Co-dependent people in a relationship with a sexually addicted spouse may share the following experiences:

  • Having a spouse who has continually called “900” sex numbers.
  • Having a spouse who is currently having or has had an affair.
  • You, yourself, are having an affair.
  • Issues dealing with molestation and abuse from spouse.
  • Their spouse is having homosexual affairs.
  • Their spouse is watching adult sex videos and buying pornography (magazines).
  • Their spouse is having sex with prostitutes.

 The Solution

The co-dependent person can achieve the following:

  • Hear the struggles of other co-dependents.
  • Learn healthy, Christian values for family roles and rules.
  • Gain information about healthy sexuality and relationships.
  • Break through denial and other unhealthy family patterns.
  • Encouragement from the group to find peace, strength, and grace through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
  • Build healthy relationships by finding love and acceptance in a “safe” place to share.
  • Realize that we could not control the addict or their behavior.
  • Understand that our problems are emotional and spiritual.
  • Face our denial and accept the truth about our lives, and our past issues.
  • Realize that blaming ourselves, trying to control the addict and/or ignoring their behavior, refusing to set and uphold our own personal boundaries, are all signs of co-addiction.
  • Accept responsibility for our own actions and make Jesus the Lord of our lives.
  • Become dedicated to learning about sexual addiction and co-addiction and becoming partners with our spouse in recovery.
  • Realize we are not responsible for their addiction or recovery. It is not our job to “cure” them.
  • Find healthy ways to release our fears and anger and refuse to use anger inappropriately toward the addict.
  • Have a safe place to share fears, hurt, or anger and also to rejoice in victories.
  • Face our own defects and work through these feelings.

Take the focus off of the addict and focus on God and our own thoughts and feelings.

Meeting Days, Times & Locations

GRACE BIBLE CHURCH
SOUTHWOOD CAMPUS
Celebrate Recovery Main Meeting
The Landing – CR for Teens
Tuesdays, 7:00 – 9:00 pm
1901 S. Harvey Mitchell Pkwy
College Station, TX 77840
Church Phone: 979.695.2000
CR MINISTRY LEADERS
Diane Davis: 979-575-3130
diane.davis1950@yahoo.com
Craig Miller: 979-777-7148
sigmacoog@yahoo.com
LANDING MINISTRY LEADERS
Billie Lansford: 979-571-9042
bmcsloy@yahoo.com
Clay Harley: 979-816-4923
clay.harley@gmail.com

CONNECTING POINT CHURCH
Celebrate Recovery Main Meeting
Fridays, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Childcare Available
410 Harvey Rd
College Station, TX 77845
Church Phone: 979-693-5555
MINISTRY LEADERS
Steven Hope 979-422-1409
Jade Hope 832-800-8929
msjade409@gmail.com

Hurts, Habits, and Hang-ups

  • Adult Children of Family Dysfunction
  • Anger
  • Chemical Dependency
  • Codependency
  • Codependent Women in a Relationship With a Sexually Addicted Man
  • Eating Disorders
  • Food Addiction
  • Gambling Addiction
  • Love and Relationship Addiction
  • Mental Health
  • Physical, Sexual, and Emotional Abuse For Women
  • Self Injury
  • Sexual Addiction
  • Veterans – Combat Related Post-Traumatic Stress
  • Veterans – Military Sexual Trauma
  • Veterans – Spouses and Family Transition

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